Today my pick is Teenage. I won't discuss why I chose this topic, let's just begin. So, we all know the physical meaning of teenage and the stupid changes
that happen etc etc. But it's not the only angle to look at it. There's emotional up and down and then up again and bam! down again :P There's insecurity,there's anger,there's confusion,there's
curiosity,there's pressure,peer and parental both.There may be
exceptions but let's not be specific.
Teenage is, or should be, a time when you explore your abilities, try new things, realize what is good for you,make new friends,revive the bond with your parents,understand yourself, while being grounded and knowing your limits.
As important it is to do the stuff stated above, it is equally, or even more important to give a serious thought to your career and studies. Make sure you keep learning and improving as a person everyday. Analyse your day before going to bed and say to yourself, "I'll try and be a better and more positive person tomorrow than I am today" :D
I see I'm deviating from my topic. So,
Friends,I believe are a prominent part! Hence good ones ensure a better and risk-free teenage! And the
slightly loose minded, or those who don't know when to encourage and
when to say no,might create some problems. But, no doubt, we love spending time with them,reason simply being they are where we are.
What screws up a perfectly normal teenage? Loosing you mind and not thinking straight. It's a sensitive age,where lot of things and people try to influence us. This is the time to not let go of your moral values and trust your instincts.Critical events like these are a test of the kind of parenting we've got.No offence.
There's a lot of self consciousness too! But then again, shit happens :P So just when you want to look stunning, the mighty acne shows up, or it'll be a bad hair day! I consider people who never face acne really lucky,but at the same time,what is teenage without them :P Also, learn to accept. If you are fat or short, accept it. Of course, work out and do things that could help,but don't hate yourself and know that you'll be fine!
The support of parents,is crucial.It's hard because this is also the time when you rebel. You disagree and you argue. If you develop the habit of hiding stuff from your parents in these few years, it is because either they do not trust you or they reacted bad when you tried to share with them.
It is highly important for mums and dads to be friendly, and not scream or hit their kids when they confess something,because if they do, the vicious cycle of lying will begin,no doubt,and that will turn out extremely problematic in the long run. Parents have to support,no matter what, and appreciate when needed, and maybe a hug and a goodnight kiss sometimes :D Not being able to talk to one's parents,definitely puts you at risk of getting into more problems. It's not easy, they scold us, they say no for things we wanna do,but it's all kind of worth it.
Almost all teenagers have crushes and feel they like someone( hopefully from the opposite sex :P lol). It's a part of growing up and it's absolutely normal. Some,unfortunately take it too seriously,and think they have fallen in love and found their Mr.Right and all such crap.
Some, take really stupid steps which eventually become regrets for life.
The thing is,never getting too serious.Having fun and friendly relationships.And getting rid of them if they don't make you smile anymore:) Set ground rules. Remember you're just a kid whose maybe confused. But do learn something from every such phase.
Break ups are never easy,but you have to cope with them, so the faster,the better. Good friends,pets,coffee,hobbies to the rescue.
Also,teens are prone to getting addicted to all sorts of bad habits. To name a few, Drinks and drugs. What helps here, is being in good company of sensible friends who know the fine line b/w Good and Bad.,Healthy and Insane.Right and Wrong.Trying a few drinks is not wrong. Losing control of yourself is.
The need teens feel to make new friends, impress them, become popular,find love etc etc.....can sometimes cross limits,courtesy : Social Networking. As I said before,trusting your instincts is necessary. If you have a feeling that the unknown person you are chatting with has bad intentions, say no, use Block and Un-friend buttons. Being safe is more important than anything! I watch shows like MTV Webbed and Gumrah on [V] and feel that the craziest crimes are committed by youngsters. Why? They're not bad or criminal by heart. They're good people,just overly sensitive,loose headed and angry at the wrong time. Decisions taken in anger, always have bad repercussions.
To sum up, Teenage is hard. There will, surely there will be moments when your mood is crazy, you feel like crying, you want to put your(or somebody else's :D) head through a wall, when you feel you look ugly, you feel jealous or inferior,you feel you have no real friends, nobody wants you....blah blah. Remember, you're not alone ! Get a hug! Put your energy into something fruitful.Meditation and exercise might help.
My message would be, be frank with you parents, learn art and music, have fun, never neglect you studies, even if you fall down, know that your whole life is ahead of you. Have fun! Experiment with your clothes! Get you hair styled! Sing aloud! Click pictures! Dance hard! Learn new instruments,sports,learn to manage money,
Read good novels,Take care of yourself and indulge in activities that make you grow and build your confidence.....travel and be safe! Always Have faith...:) Tadaaa
Yuvika
